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I was nodding away in agreement with the Brené Brown’s video on empathy. The last time I heard someone saying “at least…” to me, I felt like punching them in the nose. (Ok, so that wasn’t a gracious thought.)

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❤️ your weekly newsletter Erin, my attitude gets adjusted EVERY time!

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💃🏼 Happy Friday! I know I’m super late to the party but that’s because this West Coast Lil’ Swipe just finished a full week back to work! I’ve been on hiatus from my career in food service for the past 11 years raising my boys, which has been great! But if I’m being totally honest, I’m so exhausted with trying to make our single-income household work!

👩🏼‍🍳 So I’m back…as a Lunch Lady! It’s the perfect schedule for our family, I was hired immediately…and offered a bigger position than I wanted, and I was fought over by several managers! It feels really great to be needed and highly desired in this way…even if I’m “just” a Lunch Lady!

Erin, I’m so happy you’re in your new house and I was wondering what the Moon Family does to celebrate? Do you order pizza on the first night and eat on blankets? Do you make a fort? Do you hide in your new closet and drink cocktails? We want to know!

Have a great weekend, everyone! I’ll be over here drinking PSL’s because they make me happy!

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Congrats on the move! I hope to join you soon in the land of permanent housing.

I met with some folks at a non-profit last week about a job and there's definitely some mutual interest. I caught them on a weird day, so I'm going back on Monday to see the whole thing in action. I got a little spooked when they said that all but one of their vets are independent contractors, but they are willing to consider taking me on as an employee, so if they can come up with a halfway decent compensation package we may have a deal.

Tomorrow is my last Saturday shift! Which means it will either be smooth sailing or the building will burn down. There is no in between.

I signed up for a pen pal via Penpalooza at the end of last year, and after a couple of false starts got matched with a winner. It takes a lot of self control not to start watching the mailbox for a letter as soon as I've sent one out, and it's been a real joy.

- LULARICH! Please tell me I'm not the only one. I watched it over last weekend and it is BANANAS! There was an episode early in the first season of Schitts Creek that I joked with a friend was basically an MLM documentary and after seeing this documentary, I stand by that statement.

- I've been getting very into Joseph this week. Here's a favorite: https://youtu.be/YYQO-Kk4O44

- I'm almost finished with One Last Stop by Casey McQuiston. It's a timey-wimey rom-com with an absolutely delightful cast of characters - big recommend, especially if you liked her first one.

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Hi friends! Treasures from the week are Bri McKoy's fall playlist, watching all the back to Broadway videos, planning a fall weekend trip with my sister, and a vase of bright zinnias on my kitchen counter. Turds are work frustration/drama and job hunting, and we are coming up on the one year anniversary of my grandfather's passing away so trying to figure out what to do on that day to memorialize/remember him. I want to do something special but every time I start trying to think of ideas, I just want to do them WITH him... Anyways, if you have any special ideas, please share. Hope you all have the best weekend available to you <3

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I really felt the tweet about how expensive it is to breathe in your 20s... Asthma and allergy medications aren't cheap!

Anyway, I really love this video of a school in Georgia giving their janitor a car: https://fb.watch/84xCa_BYqe/

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So glad for Friday as having to be up before the sun every day this week has made me just crave some time doing absolutely nothing. Some highlights from this week:

Booked a house for my birthday beach time.

My mom turns 70 this month and words are her love language so have asked people to send her cards and the first 2 came yesterday and she called me and I could hear the smile.

Started my friends Zumba class and it is kicking my butt but makes me so happy at the same time.

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Happy Friday!

I feel like I’ll jinx this if I say it, but…if we make it through today, my daughter will have gone a whole week without me having to pick her up early from school for being so dizzy she can’t walk! All the prayers and fingers crossed! She starts PT on Tuesday and we’re hoping it helps even more than what we’re already doing.

Moving is so stressful, Erin! We are just now starting to feel settled in our new to us home. And there’s still lots to do since it needs some work. I’m now on sleeping pills and anti-anxiety meds due to moving and my daughter’s health problems and insomnia since before any of that. The meds are making me groggy, but I’m hoping it’s just an adjustment thing.

I saw someone say that whenever we feel dumb for being overwhelmed, we should try saying what the issue is and adding “during a deadly pandemic” at the end. It’s weirdly helpful. ❤️

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Hello swipes! Happy Friday!

I am here at my new job before the craziness of the day begins. I have a few meetings today and then straight after work we drive to Park City to attend the wedding of my friend (she is also my wedding photographer!) followed by a big work party near the olympic park in Park City for my husband's work. Busy day!

Some treasures:

- (This one is a mixed bag but stick with me) My dear friend, McKenna, who was in the horrific car accident earlier this year, is approaching the 1 year anniversary of her marriage to her husband. Their anniversary is on Sunday. I can only imagine the feelings she has washing over and around her right now as she is still mourning his death. I reached out to her mom to see if I could send her something to let her know that we have not forgotten that their love was still worth celebrating. Her mom informed me that apparently McK has been teaching herself to play guitar while she is extensively stuck at home and can't walk much, but it's her dad's old guitar, so it is really big - so I reached out to my troops and we got $200 to give her a budget to go to her local Guitar Center and pick out a new guitar that is more her size. It felt so nice to just venmo that to her mom and say, "Take her out and just let her pick".

- My new job is going well! I must say, it is a little different to be.... respected? Valued? At a job! Amazing! My old job would never give me big responsibilities unless my boss had said she'd take care of it and then became overwhelmed and I would jump in and help. I have responsibilities here! It's very rewarding and honestly kind of a confidence booster!

- We are going to redecorate our living room - we're going for more of a mid-century modern vibe (like everyone else and their mom) and we have already begun thrifting it all! We decided we want to try and source as much second-hand or vintage as possible. It's working well so far!

I don't have many turds except for one but I will take any advice I can get. My new boss is... hard. He's a middle aged white guy who talks down to his coworkers/employees and can just get downright demeaning. My new coworker was nearly in tears about it yesterday and she's too afraid to bring it up, even though she has been here for eleven years! He has said/done things to/in front of me as well, and he will even talk down to us in front of visitors. I don't feel like I have enough time here under my belt to really bring it up, but also, I definitely don't want it to continue. Do I call an HR meeting? I just feel like his demeanor is very patriarchal and he's just not nice (an example is that right now we have a FanX convention going on, and he keeps walking around the convention center to, "see all the freaks and weirdos". WE CANNOT YUCK PEOPLE'S YUMS HERE, Y'ALL. Some people are just excited to meet the guy who voiced Scooby Doo! Be nice! Also, he will make those comments IN FRONT OF GUESTS. It is mind boggling to me). Anyway, if you have dealt with this before, let me know - I don't know what to do!

Can't wait to read about your weeks!

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Happy Friday my favorite Swipes! 👏

It’s been a hot minute since I’ve commented mostly because I get easily overwhelmed once it feels “too late” in the morning to stay relevant.

💍 Britney Spears - my girl has her court date at the end of the month and I feel positive that she has a path out of the conservatirship. She got engaged and while I’m not entirely sure of Sam’s intentions, I trust Brit.

📺 Fargo - this show has been keeping me engaged. I just love how the Coen Brothers manage to create each season so that it’s weird, quirky and yet you still find a dumb villain and a wholesome hero to root for. I’m towards the end of season 3.

🎧 Sarah’s Bookshelves - really enjoying this podcast about books. I love the format and Sarah’s opinions.

📚 I got a Chicago library card! May have overdone it though as I had 5 books to pick up this week, not counting the 3 I took initially. Give me the strength to finish these! Reading Us Against You by Fredrik Backman and really enjoying it.

👩‍🍳 Made the Half Baked Harvest recipe for this chicken orzo sun dried tomato skillet, and I’m still craving it. Fairly easy and so so delicious. https://www.halfbakedharvest.com/one-skillet-creamy-sun-dried-tomato-chicken-and-orzo/

That’s all for now. I think I’ll play Les Miz on repeat to get me through the exhaustion and stress from my workplace. 🥰

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Hey Swipes!

Erin, I'm so glad you're finally not homeless anymore and I wish you all the best with unpacking and everything else that comes with moving in to a new house.

My biggest turd this week is bronchitis. I feel stupid even calling it a turd but I've had bronchitis for 80% of the time for the last four years and every time it comes back I get a little weaker and a lot sadder. HOWEVER, I did get the whole summer "off", and it was glorious! So I'm hoping and praying that means it's moving in the right direction and I won't be coughing nonstop all winter. #pleaseandthankyou

On to treasures:

❤ "There’s no such thing as an unfaithful emotion in response to suffering." I've been chewing on this quote all week and thought I'd share it in case it can be of comfort to someone.

📚 We Are The Winter People by Jenny Rowbory. A collection of poems that I urge you to check out if you're even remotely interested in poetry. The poems are gorgeous and heartbreaking, tackling themes of faith and suffering. And they're very good if you need to hack your crying! Full disclosure: Jenny is an internet friend of mine and all the money from the sales goes toward getting her lifesaving surgery so I'd really love it if you'd buy the book. https://www.jkrowbory.co.uk/we-are-the-winter-people/

👗 I ordered a really cute skirt and some new nail polish, so I'm going to be looking very pretty this fall, thankyouverymuch 😉

🐶 Trent Crimm. The Independent. https://twitter.com/roblanger/status/1435044486631936007

Have a wonderful weekend everyone! https://www.instagram.com/p/CSNG_7JjRyg/

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That Paddington Bear could not be more true. For reasons I'm sure made sense at one point but now seem mystifying, we are re-roofing our own house - which my husband absolutely is qualified to do - but choosing to do so right when kids go back to school & I go back to work seems like the dumbest idea we've ever had. It's dragging on and on & I keep crying for what feels like no reason. Other things keep cropping up that I have no bandwidth to deal with because every spare second is being spent on this roof. Please let it be finished this week.

In other news, the the ice cream place down the street from me has their pumpkin creme brulee back again from last year. Perfection for when it has returned to being hot as blazes, but you still want that fall flavor.

Lastly, I picked up some greenhouse treasures this week. Another winterberry with golden berries (winter gold), a shrub we haven't grown before with clusters of bright orange berries, and a little compact spruce shrub that grows red/purple pine cones & can tolerate shade. Now to find homes for these little beauties ...

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It's Friday, Friday, gotta get down on Friday! Okay, I'm sorry for getting that song stuck in your head.

But, I'm so happy it's Friday! My husband has been at the Alabama Banking School (it's a real thing) all week, and he's coming home after he takes his final test today! I'm excited to see him, but I have to admit, having the house completely to myself for 4 nights was such a treat for this enneagram 5.

I have no update on the upcoming beach trip/pregnant friend/covid test situation. Nothing else has been said (in our group chat at least) and we've moved on to talking about other things like where you can get new swimsuit in mid-September. I'll be sure to keep y'all updated because I know you are deeply invested in this story.

Treasures:

- Cinderella on Amazon Prime. This was so cute, amazing music, not too long. It put me in such a good mood!

- Only Murders in the Building: streaming on Hulu. Set in NYC. Steve Martin. Martin Short. True crime. Perfection.

- What We Do in the Shadows Season 3: Definitely putting me in the mood for Halloween.

- 9/12: a podcast about the different things that happened the day after 9/11. It's really good. Not too sad, but very cathartic.

- Skydiving Doggo: https://www.instagram.com/p/CTsdJMdoycS/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

- Millennials then vs Millennials now: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CTvwDNBlE54/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

- Playing bops on the piano: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CSZB7IygamK/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

I hope everyone has the best weekend! Do something relaxing! <3

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Well, it's been a week that felt like a thousand years. After experiencing some mild symptoms, and knowing I had several in-person events I really wanted to be at, I decided to get a PCR (as opposed to rapid) COVID test to be extra safe. My appointment was last Friday at 12:30.

The first major thing I missed was on Sunday, when my church opened a new location, which we've been working towards for YEARS and I desperately wanted to be at.

Then, I missed 3 days of in-person meetings at work. I participated as the only video participant, to a room of 15-20 people, and it triggered all my "left out kid" feelings to not be able to hear the side conversations or pick up on the muttered jokes that would send the whole room into fits of laughter.

In addition, on Monday morning my mom texted that my grandpa had been taken by ambulance for heart problems. He has 3 clogged arteries, and for a while they weren't sure what they were going to do as a next step.

Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday morning were the darkest days I've had in a good while. I was so sad, so worried, so desperately wishing for ONE person who HAS to be my person. I'm single and live alone, and being SO very alone through all of this was immensely difficult.

Thankfully, things started to turn around on Wednesday, when I finally got my negative test result and was freed from my home. They're putting in stents for my grandpa today, and hopefully he can go home tomorrow. I'm feeling a lot of relief, but am still not over the terribleness of the first part of the week. I'll get to see my nieces and nephews this weekend, and am really looking forward to that.

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Well I started a comment but then got distracted by all the morning things. I think I need this newsletter to come out around lunch time or early afternoon so I can have time to fully read and appreciate all the comments and have time to comment weekly myself.😆

Erin - so glad you are in your house. Change and transition are hard even when good things are coming. We move next week to our new home and while I’m excited, I’m also overwhelmed and a little sad as every new thing makes me feel a little like that.

A treasure this week is that I got to process some feelings about me and ministry and how I’m feeling about God right now. It was not how I intended this meeting to go but I was with safe and good friends and it felt really cathartic and uplifting with the encouragement I received as well. I think that actually led into me truly feeling filled up after youth group on Wednesday night for the first time in a long time. Trying so hard to see the good things, no matter how small, when I only can see the negative things sometimes.

Ted Lasso is such a treasure. We watched several episodes of season 2 this week and I laughed and cried both.

I just finished The House in the Cerulean Sea and same emotions. So good.

Excited for another weekend of football! Go Mizzou!

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Yippppee on the move in!

I felt this in my bones "One thing I’ve picked up on lately is just how easy it is right now for me to arrive to the point of rage. The world is on fire, and it’s just really difficult to remember how to respond to things in a healthy pre-2020 way." I have to literally count to 10 sometimes when dealing with certain folks and situations. I nee to get on twitter more I am missing all the good tweets!

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