👛 The Co-op #21: How Do I Get Unstuck + Push Past Fear to Make Big Life Decisions?

What do we do when we want to make big moves but paralyzing doubts creep in?

What is The Co-op?

It’s no secret the Swipe Up community is one of the best corners of the World Wide Web, and that is because of you. Since a girl’s girl doesn’t gatekeep, it would be wrong of me to hoard all that goodness for myself when we could be using our powers for the benefit of one another. Thus, the Co-op was born. Have a puzzling co-worker dilemma or a weird landlord or landmine faith question? Together we lasso the power of the Lil Swipes Hive Mind to help one another with our tricky conundrums and provide helpful judgment-free answers or suggestions. Like Wonder Woman, but a lot of us and with comfier pants.

How does it work?

Every so often, I gather questions from the Lil Swipes and choose one to post (you can submit your own question by clicking the button below). We then open up the comments and watch as the wisdom and experience roll right on in. Maybe you recently listened to a podcast episode that would be helpful, or you walked through something similar, or your job happens to make you an expert in the field! Maybe you made a mistake in your own life and you want to share how you learned what not to do. Or maybe you just want to lurk in the comments because you have the same question. The Co-op is part tool, part crowdsourcing advice, and part “oh thank goodness I am not alone.”

Today’s question is from Abbey!

How do you get unstuck/how do you push past the fear to make and follow through on BIG life decisions?

For context, I live in an amazing area of Oregon and work in the wine industry and could stay here and work in this industry for the rest of my life. But it doesn’t make me come alive.

My degree is in sports and I was out of grad school for the longest time because I couldn’t justify such a big expense with such a vague idea of what corner of that industry I wanted to work in. Now I know the specific area I would want to work and study (and I get so passionate when I talk about it) but the only grad schools with an emphasis are in Europe. I can feel myself starting to become paralyzed for multiple reasons (cost, it’s so far away, fear of failure).

So again, how to push past the fear?

Making money moves, these is bloody shoes

Reminders/Grains of Salt:

Don’t be judge-y or creepy.
Keep each other’s confidence well.
Resources, wisdom, experience, and general solidarity are all welcomed.
Disrespectful comments will be deleted post haste.
Even though we’re sharing personal struggles here, we’re probably not privy to the whole story.
We’re not anyone’s pastor or therapist, just well-meaning internet strangers.

Take a look at previous Co-op posts:

⛪️ The Co-op #1: Helping Your Kids with Questions of Faith
🌆 The Co-op #2: Making Friends in a New City
💼 The Co-op #3: Changing Careers
🧯 The Co-op #4: Taking Care When The World is On Fire
🦺 The Co-op #5: Setting Boundaries with Adult Parents
✅ The Co-op #6: Parenting a Kid with ADHD
✈️ The Co-op #7: Sending Your People Off Into the World
✝️ The Co-op #8: Struggling with a Changing Faith
❤️ The Co-op #9: Cultivating Hearts of Mercy
🪡 The Co-op #10: Managing Expectations with Adult Children
👯‍♀️ The Co-op #11: Discerning the End of a Friendship
👶 The Co-op #12: To Parent or Not to Parent
🤝 The Co-op #13: Talking About Faith When You & Your Partner Aren't on the Same Page
📊 The Co-op #14: Navigating Different Friendship Capacities
🫶 The Co-op #15: Making Friends as a Grown-Up
💪 The Co-op #16: Making Decisions from a Place of Strength
🥊 The Co-op #17: Respectful Disagreements in Matters of Faith
👖 The Co-op #18: Dressing for the Body We Have
🛣️ The Co-op #19: Discerning Our Career Paths
🤷🏻‍♀️ The Co-op #20: How Can I Be Me in Spaces That Don't Want Me to Be Me?

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Alright, let’s see what we’ve got for our Lil Swipe today in the comments! See you there!