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The Relevant article? 100% a DCTalk fan and, yes, I'm still with Michael. Let's eat the rich.

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Well guys, my dad has COVID so all solo weekending plans are out. I had scouted out a rooftop bar and an outdoor wine tasting as potentials (in addition to all of your great ideas!), but instead we will spend the weekend re-watching Encanto and whatever else my kids want as a consolation prize ๐Ÿ˜ญ I also shattered my glass coffee carafe this afternoon, so tomorrow morning promises many joys. Send me those Ts and Ps.

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"to make a tv show you need one banana-shaped man and one-orange shaped man. let me explain" - This was almost perfect, just missing Larry the Cucumber and Bob the Tomato. :)

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The downside of sleeping *at night* is that Iโ€™m not here for the morning comments. ๐Ÿ˜ฉ I always feel late to the party. Thankful for you midday-ers and West Coasters!

On CCM, as with many other 80s gals in the comments โ€” I didnโ€™t know there were so many of us! โ€” I came up with Amy Grant, Michael W., Wayne Watson, and later, Avalon. A STORY OF MY YOUTH: I saw Amy at a Six Flags concert when MWS was still her keyboard player and not yet known(!), and it was a seminal moment in my life. I was 15, just moved to a new town and ANGRY about it but trying to be the โ€œgood Christian girlโ€ for my parents. The youth group of grew-up-together teens took a Saturday trip to Six Flags, and I assumed we were there for the concert so I just stayed till the end and headed back to the bus afterward. Turns out, everyone had been waiting HOURS for me to return so we could go home (a couple hours drive back). Cell phones did not exist. I didnโ€™t wear a watch. And again, had we not come for the sole purpose of the concert?!? People were *furious* that I had delayed them. Grumbles and snark hurled at me on the bus ride home. I borrowed a Walkman to listen to my new Amy Grant cassette purchased at the show, and I cried silent tears the entire drive back. We arrived to a parking lot of angry parents waiting to retrieve their teens at 2am (instead of midnight). I was the new girl in a new town who suddenly became a pariah. My parents moved us to another church soon after, and I found out as an adult that they had been told by church staff that I could โ€œnever return to the youth group or take any future trips.โ€ ๐Ÿ˜ณ To this day Iโ€™m not sorry at all because God literally spoke to my adolescent heart in that concert and Amyโ€™s music was central to my faith in the teen years after. And in my mid-20s, when I decided that God could actually be trusted and that church did not equal Jesus, it was Amy Grantโ€™s โ€œcrossoverโ€ albums that gave me a gateway back to CCM. Those are still my faves, all these years later.

Hereโ€™s my favorite cultural commentary on Christians in the 80s: the opening artist for Amy at that concert was Philip Bailey, whose chart-topping single was โ€œEasy Lover.โ€ To this day itโ€™s still a banger. ๐Ÿ˜‚ But the woman standing beside me told her younger daughter, โ€œIf he sings that Lover song, weโ€™re leaving.โ€ And when he *did* sing that song AND REFERENCED A SCRIPTURE ON WHICH THE SONG WAS BASED, that lady grabbed her daughter and dragged her away. ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ I remember thinking, โ€œBut you came for Amy Grant and she hasnโ€™t even come on yet!โ€ I felt so sorry for that girl being born to that mom. LOL

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I think I actually snorted over the relevant article. I donโ€™t remember being into Christian music as a youth, but apparently at some point I was into amy grant ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธ How do they know?

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Y'all. We made it to Friday, so Yay?

Anyways, that first gif with the coffee, that's me all the time forever. Life has been overwhelming and so I've only visited the comments here and there for the last few months. I think I mentioned debating a big life change in the form of leaving my full time job to work two (three?) part-time jobs and also finish my master's. It was scary AF but I did it and I'm still adjusting and it's still a little scary but I absolutely made the right decision and am already less overwhelmed.

I CACKLED at the youth group music article, despite initial hesitations. I wasn't really a big youth group person so I just sort of meandered over to have a look and then knew I was in trouble immediately upon seeing Relient K as the first listing. Hanging out with friends is my version of church, I am definitely a little bit over capitalism and I am very into Phoebe Bridgers for sure.

A few treasures:

-as a part of my job change, I'm now working part time in a library (instead of full time) and it's a different branch where I had many friends and now I get to see them more often!

-I'm (sort of) able to focus on reading a bit more and so that's been lovely

-My book club has started meeting again and we had a new member who, hilariously, is in one of my grad school classes (online program for library sciences) so meeting her was very fun.

-I've been complimented so many times on my style at my new library job lately and it has been a delightful boost in my self esteem.

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Iโ€™ve only made it so far as the Relevant article. I donโ€™t have time to read it right this second, but did manage to see the first band is Relient K. I have tickets to a Relient K concert in a couple of months, so thereโ€™s that.

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It's Friday, Friday, Gotta get down on Friiiiidaaaaay

Hey gang!

Youth Group songs, I followed a MN band called PFR or Pray for Rain pretty hard. I worked with team members at a church camp called Shamineau. Their lead singer ended up being a worship leader at the church my mom attended and he sang at her funeral. So I guess my closest alignment to that list would be Jars of Clay.

Treasures for the Week

1. Swipes Book Club Part 1 - always a delight to see faces, hear voices, and be with each other. Am I going to be on the second date too? YUP!

2. Finishing a knitting project, developing more. My knitting projects never end and I kind of love it. It truly is a part of my therapy homework each week as it is just as calming to me as meditation.

3. My son Max turns 15 this weekend. His chill towards his bday and being like "Mom, you get me what I want and need all the time" - raising 'em right. He's picking his food for the weekend and is excited for maybe doing a half-birthday party (which I have never done before) in the Summer so he can have friends over and use our new house yard

4. The emotions knowing some deliveries will be next coming to the new house. Its happeniiiiiing!

5. I'm super excited that The Decemberists announced their new tour and I'm going to see them in August. I was originally supposed to see them Aug 2020 but well we know that song and dance soooo. I was so worried they weren't ever going to tour again but they are and the concert is going to be held outdoors at a brewery which to me is perfection. Summer night outside, hearing music that will make me cry, but I can also have a beer in my hand.

One first world problem turd - All the places I have to crosscheck to change my address. Just like I want to pay people to do other tasks in my life, remembering ALL the places I have to change my address is a whole thing.

Also, I really miss my dog lately. We still have Milo Rambaldi (yes my dog has an Alias inspired name) but he is NOT my dog. Cosmo was MY dog. He loved me in that way dogs love their humans and Milo is not that and has never been that dog for me in the house. Have I been visiting various rescue pages in my area and bookmarking them to look again sometime in May because I need MY dog? yes. Yes I have been. It's the most heart-wrenching window shopping but I think it might be my Mother Day's gift to myself.

With puppers-snuggle dreams

Mel

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Galentines exchange! https://www.elfster.com/gift-exchanges/ffe4c1e4-dfb5-4a0e-bb5a-a6692f96cc55/?join=zmzl If you signed up by yesterday, you should have your match. I will be doing a second drawing of names on 2/5 for friends who missed the initial sign up:)

will be back with treasures, etc in a hot second, but today is B A N A N A S (s/o Kelly Kapoor)

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I mean how did that article know so much about me from my Jennifer Knapp, I loved it and brought back many memories of big youth group conferences.

Highlights this week: we are done with quarantining once again. School and the exposers are driving me batty.

Iโ€™m looking forward to book club next week.

Also going to the vangogh exhibit this next week with my sister and looking forward to seeing something new and some sister time

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Treasures first:

- After much angst and consternation because Ticketmaster is the worst, guess who just got her hot little hands on a Bob Dylan ticket? This kid. It will be my first live performance of any kind since 2019 and I predict I'm gonna have some feelings about it. Also, I passed up the chance to see Bob Dylan on my birthday several years ago because I was insecure about not having anyone to go with. I no longer care about this and need to start listening now to get a grip on his more recent work.

- My best friend's younger sister, who is one of the smartest people I know, has started a blog/website around spiritual practices. She gave me permission to share here, but is pretty nervous about possibly actually having eyes on her work. I have assured her that you are all very nice people. https://www.existinwonder.com/

- Julie Nolke has been on fire. All my friends are pregnant, so this one hit a little close to home: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RGnlpW4EiyU

An explanation of NFTs here (there's also an actually decent explanation in the comments if you want to know): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cJzNiFLyw8k

I've had that Jerry Falwell article in my tabs for a few days. Is today the day I actually read it?

The descriptions for Relient K and David Crowder Band were the ones that spoke to me the most, although they were all very funny and I am only moderately into Phoebe Bridgers. DCB led worship pretty regularly at conferences in my area, so between that and actual concerts I think I saw them (and then his solo band) at least once a year from jr. high all the way through college. My freshman year of high school, we had an English assignment as part of the poetry unit where we picked and played a song for the class, and then talked about our interpretation of the lyrics. I grew up in southeastern NM on the edge of the Bible Belt, so the proportion of earnest Christian kids trying to witness to our classmates via class assignment was high. Also, thanks to the 1-2 punch of Two Lefts... and Mmhmm around that time there were also a non-zero number of Relient K songs included in my class playlist.

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Mostly just want to say I laughed out loud at so many of these tweets, thank you Erin!!! But also, wow, this brings me back to a youth group field trip to a Christian music store where we had to tell the salesperson what secular music we liked and they would give us Christian suggestions. (Side note- why did it feel like the sole purpose of youth group was to embarrass a person in public?) The guy was totally unfazed when I said REM, despite how much it seemed to disconcert my youth pastor. I do remember he picked a good artist for me, but I don't think I could ever remember who it was. Plus, this was right before grunge entered my life, so it didn't last long anyway. Definitely feel like I'm dating myself here (I've only heard of two of the bands in that article. And one of them is Amy Grant). Also, it was a cassette tape. Anyway, my personal treasure for the weekend- we might finally get some real snow here in coastal New England!

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Umm EXCUSE ME - how did they not have Avalon?!?!?! Or Point of Grace?? I guess I was very offlable. if I had to pick from that list it was Reliant K, first concert I ever saw.

Also the tweet about dread either way (first one in the list) - I was a little offended it left off "or the tenth way"... for all our prepares out there, I can see every possible outcome but usually the one that happens...

As you can see the "..." pretty much is my whole personality at this point. I know I should be taking Stupid Walks, starting to not just sit at my desk (day) or couch (night) every day, and in general be more sociable, but the dark and cold of this time of year has gotten to me and ...

I did read 3 books this week and watch all of Station 11 so there's that....

As you can see, we're doing great over here

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Friends, I made it to New York this week and saw Hugh and Sutton in all their glory! Thank you for your prayers. My judgement may be clouded, but I think it was the best show I have ever seen. Amazing talent, delightful songs, classic Broadway experience. My daughter was over the moon about the show and about staying in the city. We left the theater and our faces hurt from smiling and our hands hurt from clapping. It was a magical, Inside Out-style core memory, and I'm so thankful.

Another funny story. My parents were SO concerned about crime in New York and asked me to cancel the trip. Now, I am 41 years old, a generally cautious person, and have been to Manhattan countless times, starting as a teen, so I felt good about making my own decision to brave the crime-ridden streets of New York. (Literal conversation the night before: "Send us updates throughout the day to let us know you're okay." "Sure, I'll send you selfies of our adventures." "Don't take selfies! Then you'll be distracted from your surroundings!")

Well, we were walking to the train station on the way home, and were approached by a guy asking for money. I told him, sorry, I didn't have any cash and he started shouting and swearing at me that I was an effing liar and he knew I had money and to show him my wallet. Instinctively, I reacted like the mother I am and turned to him and shouted, "HEY! No THANK you!" It was a very "we don't talk to people like that" moment. As we walked away (still being sworn at) I turned to my daughter and said, "This is something we DO NOT TELL NANNY." Still laughing about how I fended off a potential mugging by bringing out my mom voice.

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Ha! Erin, as always thanks for the tweets! Also I was going to post the youth group band article. Lol! I had just read the McSweeney's piece and thought, there should be a CCM one. Thank goodness for Tyler. ๐Ÿ˜

Happy Friday Swipes! I am excited about book club and Galentines Day, my first forays into extra-curricular swipieness.

๐ŸŽธ My husband is a rock and metal guy, and I spent my youth listening to Wham! I've picked up a lot of knowledge during our marriage, but I still sometimes get lost in all the sub-genres. And honestly most of these dudes - and ladies (yeah! Girls can rock so hard!) - look the same to me. But I found this history of heavy metal video that walks through the genres really well. If you have 15 minutes for rock school, this is a good explainer: https://youtu.be/kbk7ThCAApk

๐Ÿ“ฝ Also in heavy metal entertainment. We've watched a few documentaries recently. I'm never going to love metal like my husband, but I love learning about people and what makes them the way they are. Here are three interesting ones:

Heavy Metal Parking Lot - it is just a time capsule of the 80s. The hair! Wowzers. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heavy_Metal_Parking_Lot

Some Kind of Monster - watching these guys with so much unresolved trauma try to be a band together. I look back at pictures of these guys from the 80s and I just want to hug them all and get them into therapy. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Metallica:_Some_Kind_of_Monster

Anvil! The Story of Anvil - its like a real life Spinal Tap. The plucky band that just doesn't give up. Oh my heart. They are a couple of blue color dudes from Toronto trying to make their band take off... for 30 years. I was rooting for them so hard by the end.. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anvil!_The_Story_of_Anvil

๐Ÿ“š Still processing Whiskey When We're Dry - thank you Meg for sending questions ahead of time. And my BOTM book arrived yesterday: The Magnolia Palace. Anyone read it?

Side note: I've noticed a lot of the art I have been taking in is set in the period between Spanish Flu and WW2. Several books, TV shows, movies... Also - a lot seem to be set in Yorkshire. This novel is in New York, which is named after the old one. Lol. My husband just met an internet friend fom there, I feel like we need to plan a trip there...

OK ladies that's all I have today. Heavy Metal. And Yorkshire. And the turn of the last century. Oh, and this deer:

https://youtu.be/9Xd8xq06FCw

Big deadline at work today, but I will find time to catch up in the comments.

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