Hello, friends. This week has been hard. I have been sick for two weeks and it has brought up a lot of trauma from past sicknesses. I've been trying to be kind to myself and take my time to rest, but in this Western world of "go, go, go" it is downright difficult. Good thoughts, prayers, vibes would be greatly appreciated as I heal again. I was able to keep an eye out for treasures however, and here are a few of them!
-A shower chair. I kid you not, this has been one of the best purchases for some intense shower anxiety. It makes me feel so much more independent and secure.
-Instagram and IRL friends who make this journey that much more sacred and bearable.
-Dresses! My favorite buys from Target are from August Sky and Hope and Henry.
-Listening to The Humanity Archive by Jermaine Fowler with my dad and the conversations that we have after reading.
Today was my last day of work at my old job (ahhh, it feels good to call it that!), and after Labor Day I start a new, better-paying, much more challenging job. I'm SO excited to get started, but in the meantime, I have roughly 793 tasks to do between now and my new start date. Hoping for a fresh blast of motivation, energy, stamina, and perseverance to get through it all. Have a lovely weekend, all!
I have been in the same headspace as Sister Beth. Grief shopping, making returns, the whole bit. Also, can I just say that I’m so annoyed with the Target judgment on her post? Good gravy. 🫠
Can I lay out something that has to do with nothing written? What is in style of a 12 1/2 year old girl. She’s a little more petite so I find myself in the old navy girls section (no target where I live). I know clothes aren’t everything but first day at a new school means best foot foreword. We do practice our own sense of modesty (more about how if you attitude changes while wearing the clothes than your boobs showing)
Petite-12-year-old shopping is a struggle. We have had some luck with Francesca’s (the Franki kids line), occasionally Walmart for their Justice items and they have some slim cut pants options for Levi’s and another brand.
My mother died on Saturday, after a very long and sad battle with dementia. And I bought a Peloton yesterday. Is this the type of grief shopping we're talking about? She actually loved exercise when she was well and would have appreciated my purchase!
I think grief is so relative that almost anything short of illegal or harmful things is valid. If I had the room in my house, I’d be saving up for a Peloton too.
I am so sorry for your loss. And all the losses that came before. ❤️ That is a lot of grief to hold. A Peleton sounds like the perfect way to process grief.
In 2020 while grieving the pandemic (and more than that, one of my besties moving away from Florida and back to Seattle), I bought a lot of black clothes because hellooooooooo that’s how I was feeling. In 2021 when things were slowly but surely turning around, I looked at my closet and thought it was just one big shadow. Thankfully, I’ve been able to balance my closet again with the colors I love, and I even have floral things now too!
Don’t get me wrong, I still have a lot of those shadow staples (they’ll always be a part of me, mainly because they were a part of me even before the pandemic), but it really is healing that there’s color in my wardrobe again. 🩷🥹
I may or may not have been in a TJ Maxx buying frenzy once and for some reason (why, Lord?) purchased a 3 pack of adorable reading glasses. Friends, I don't use or need reading glasses. They weren't even close to my prescription. I don't know what I was thinking but I did take them back. Yesterday I grief shopped a book from the thrift store.
When I was traveling five hours each way to visit my mother, who had Alzheimers, a pair of shoes would always, without fail, arrive at my door a few days after I got home. Post visit, hotel room alone, online grief shopping is real.
I had a very expensive summer last year brought on by divorce grief!
Hello, friends. This week has been hard. I have been sick for two weeks and it has brought up a lot of trauma from past sicknesses. I've been trying to be kind to myself and take my time to rest, but in this Western world of "go, go, go" it is downright difficult. Good thoughts, prayers, vibes would be greatly appreciated as I heal again. I was able to keep an eye out for treasures however, and here are a few of them!
-A shower chair. I kid you not, this has been one of the best purchases for some intense shower anxiety. It makes me feel so much more independent and secure.
-Instagram and IRL friends who make this journey that much more sacred and bearable.
-Dresses! My favorite buys from Target are from August Sky and Hope and Henry.
-Listening to The Humanity Archive by Jermaine Fowler with my dad and the conversations that we have after reading.
Thank you all for being a safe space. Love you!
Today was my last day of work at my old job (ahhh, it feels good to call it that!), and after Labor Day I start a new, better-paying, much more challenging job. I'm SO excited to get started, but in the meantime, I have roughly 793 tasks to do between now and my new start date. Hoping for a fresh blast of motivation, energy, stamina, and perseverance to get through it all. Have a lovely weekend, all!
I have been in the same headspace as Sister Beth. Grief shopping, making returns, the whole bit. Also, can I just say that I’m so annoyed with the Target judgment on her post? Good gravy. 🫠
Can I lay out something that has to do with nothing written? What is in style of a 12 1/2 year old girl. She’s a little more petite so I find myself in the old navy girls section (no target where I live). I know clothes aren’t everything but first day at a new school means best foot foreword. We do practice our own sense of modesty (more about how if you attitude changes while wearing the clothes than your boobs showing)
Petite-12-year-old shopping is a struggle. We have had some luck with Francesca’s (the Franki kids line), occasionally Walmart for their Justice items and they have some slim cut pants options for Levi’s and another brand.
My mother died on Saturday, after a very long and sad battle with dementia. And I bought a Peloton yesterday. Is this the type of grief shopping we're talking about? She actually loved exercise when she was well and would have appreciated my purchase!
I’m so sorry about your mom, Emily! I hope your Peloton helps you still feel connected even in her absence.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Emily. <3
I think grief is so relative that almost anything short of illegal or harmful things is valid. If I had the room in my house, I’d be saving up for a Peloton too.
I am so sorry for your loss. And all the losses that came before. ❤️ That is a lot of grief to hold. A Peleton sounds like the perfect way to process grief.
In 2020 while grieving the pandemic (and more than that, one of my besties moving away from Florida and back to Seattle), I bought a lot of black clothes because hellooooooooo that’s how I was feeling. In 2021 when things were slowly but surely turning around, I looked at my closet and thought it was just one big shadow. Thankfully, I’ve been able to balance my closet again with the colors I love, and I even have floral things now too!
Yes! I did the shadow purge too. I love that your heart/body get to be in a floral place now. That feels like healing. 💐
Don’t get me wrong, I still have a lot of those shadow staples (they’ll always be a part of me, mainly because they were a part of me even before the pandemic), but it really is healing that there’s color in my wardrobe again. 🩷🥹
I may or may not have been in a TJ Maxx buying frenzy once and for some reason (why, Lord?) purchased a 3 pack of adorable reading glasses. Friends, I don't use or need reading glasses. They weren't even close to my prescription. I don't know what I was thinking but I did take them back. Yesterday I grief shopped a book from the thrift store.
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When I was traveling five hours each way to visit my mother, who had Alzheimers, a pair of shoes would always, without fail, arrive at my door a few days after I got home. Post visit, hotel room alone, online grief shopping is real.